Our Relationships with men — how to resolve the unresolved with the Primary He and make use of his reflective function for you, in you.
I’ve been relating deeply and openly through feeling-based relating with many She’s over the past four years. Because I am a He, I have been intrigued to learn and witness some of the patterned behaviors arising within and from her body again and again to help her resolve the unresolved with Man, who is the primary He (either her father, uncle, grandfather, or brother). I’ve come to know that each unresolved trauma has a primary experience, a root, and there was always an “other” there imparting hurt or not meeting natural needs.
In relation to still not finding that “perfect” Deep Love, I want to share the following:
I deeply feel that She’s of the Western cult programming are, through reactivating and re-membering the deep and wild powers of Love through their Wombfield, destined to set the new norm for Love — for Life, for real, raw, and fierce Love that shows up again and again, holding the frequency field that is in Syntropy, Self-Sovereignty, and not entropy based on lack, fear, and the furthering of trauma from being unaddressed and unresolved.
I also feel that in order for this to come about as a transformative form of Love — healing both men and women internally from their entropic programming — it is paramount that She deeply resolves her own unresolved with the Primary He in her life. Only then can she truly become that self-embodied field, re-enabled to transform all pain, all hurt, all trauma, all suffering, and all stories back into Love, holding the field for relating with men, intimately or casually.
The question is: how does She do the work on her hidden, internally unresolved wounds with Men, with the world of Man, the patriarchy, the matrix, and the artificial world of time and money, so She can become free of all her patterned behavior of the past where she was repeating the same stories through many different relationships?
What was She, that little girl, really looking for by causing the attraction to connect with yet another He?
The Reflective Function of Emotional Reactions
If these sharings trigger any feelings in you, know that I am reflecting the unresolved in you around your Primary He and your unresolved patriarchal programming. Please know that it is fully safe in this field of Love and integrity that I embody to reveal these deflections, judgments, and reactions. They all hold a story in you, for you, from you. The question is: do you feel willing to be really real with that and explore them, or do you want to keep doing it how you have been? Your hurt is welcomed, your pain is understood, and your truth of essence is known and held in me as the Free and Self-Sovereign She that is your nature.
(And to add, of course, equally this work within is for Men to engage in willingly to resolve their unresolved with the primary She.)
It is so relevant for all humans to remember how our internal landscape of the psyche, feelings, and emotions is always, with purpose, performing a function to assist the Self to heal aspects of the past so we can re-member and re-integrate that defragmented aspect of self back into the present self — the grown-up She full of Love for Life.
Through this awareness that your body is reacting emotionally for and in support of you, we can feel assured that any and all uncomfortable feelings are only ever emerging to call on you to meet them, to feel them, and to question what that feeling and that part of you is actually trying to ex-press.
When we learn to stop judging, blaming, avoiding, or coping with these real feelings, and instead return to a gentle self-inquiry within as to what is being felt and communicated, we can swiftly come into awareness of what memory is associated with this feeling — which, most times, is tied to trauma.
Breaking It Apart: Illuminating the Core 5 Traumas and Death (The Roadmap to Self-Healing)
There are only five Primary imprinting traumas that almost all humans in the Western cult are imparted with. Thus, it is actually quite simple to discover which trauma is really being triggered in the reflection of his or her behavior in you:
- Primary Separation from Love: Almost all of us have been prematurely separated from Love — from the wombspace, from our placenta, or from our Mother. Deep Love being reflected can profoundly trigger this deeply sealed and stored-away trauma of our infancy. Fear of ending relationships or “ending love” are messages from our body that can take us back to this place inside us. Birth trauma is relatively easy to trace, as it has everything to do with the World of Man — the external authority that, without our consent, separated us from our life-cord to Love. This can reflect itself in becoming upset with men, money, work, and the fantasy of “having to,” while we actually have free Will. It was our Free Will that got violated so early in life, and most of us carry deep trauma around the injustice — the lack of understanding “why” this was done when we were pure, innocent love, full of love for Life around us. When “someone” disconnects us from that, we can find ourselves upset with the system, the matrix, the patriarchy, and the injustice that this World of Man keeps perpetuating: violating Love, violating Life. The external world reflects this to us in all its entropic expressions where “men” go against our nature and environment, glorifying time, money, and financial growth — the Government, the police, the headmaster, the manager, the banking elite, the pedophilic priests, the rapist, war strikes, the illuminati, the drunkard, the junky, the rebel, the doctor, the politician, corporate corruption, and widespread poverty. We innately know that all of this is unnatural. But read those labels again and make every “the” into “my” — for any of these labels with associated judgment live inside our neurochemistry to perform a purposeful function: to indicate our unresolved wounds with external authority violating, trespassing against, breaking your free will, and corrupting your original innocence.
- Primary Abandonment: Almost all of us have experienced a Primary Abandonment, which leads to the ongoing fear of being left or rejected again. From this, we also paradoxically fear breaking up with others because we know deeply the pain of being rejected and abandoned. Trauma can thus keep you “locked” in dysfunctional relationships because you don’t want to do to him what happened to you. Love, however, cannot heal or bridge anything externally, because it is not outside where something can actually be addressed. The emotional reaction comes from within. Projecting outward is what is called coping or spiritually bypassing the actual primary imprint that the fear or judgment is speaking of.
- Primary Rejection: Almost all of us have experienced Primary Rejection, where what we felt we wanted was not honored, respected, or checked in with. We will thus keep fighting for our natural rights, working hard to belong, and striving to prove to ourselves that what we want is right, justifiable, and explainable — maintaining connections in all sorts of ways that stem from the fear of losing them.
- Primary Shaming: Almost all of us have experienced a Primary Shaming that continues to cause us to seek approval for who we are and what we do. We seek acknowledgment in the external world with him or her, while we can only ever give this to ourselves by finding where our patterned behavior of pleasing, teasing, or wooing comes from. By asking, “Is what I am doing here actually feeling natural?” we open an enormous field of awareness for ourselves, which leads to, “Do I want to keep doing it like this?” Naturally, awareness brings about choice, but Will is required to gain access to the root cause of still wanting to make him or her accept us for who we are.
- Primary Absence or Unnatural Withholding of the Flow of Love: We innately anticipated this flow as children. We were intrinsically wired to receive love from the grownups around us when we longed for it, but it did not show up. We didn’t know how to ask for it, as it should have simply been there. These wounds lead to a lot of confusion around knowing ourselves and our self-worth. They are often entirely hidden in our psyche, as there was simply an absence of action — an absence of nurture, physical contact, reassurance, praise, and encouragement. She’s can discover these wounds within by observing how they still long for deep love from Him, with Him, and by Him. Love alone cannot wash away the trauma of the past; the yearning is tied to the felt-based absence of Love not given by their Primary He when they were young.
The Fear of Death Program
Additionally, we have all been programmed to Fear Death by not having been raised to know that “death” as a concept is an intrinsic part of Life and the greater web of Life. Without death, Life wouldn’t be able to grow, change, expand, and give rise to the next succession of Life.
In our own lives, we can find this programmed fear showing up around ending relationships, changing the status quo, or experiencing change brought on by external means. We fear change and become resistant to it, clinging to what we have now because death has thus far meant ending, no more, finished. Life, however, only works because cyclical change means growth. This “fear of death program,” once illuminated within your internal landscape, shines a light on what you hold onto as belief systems that actually fear Life — which is constant change — meaning that, at the depth of it, we fear Love.
Going to the Root: The Macro-Cosmic Matrix and Wetiko
The root cause for all current human trauma inflicted, experienced, and carried in our cells is the socially engineered, entropic patriarchal Western cult programming starting at our Birth.
It stems from the hijacking of humanity’s divine, Love-oriented Nature by wetiko — humanity’s mind-virus. These are non-living parasitic forces that have been manipulating those in power or great responsibility for thousands of years, suppressing humanity’s self-sovereignty by breaking their free will, all for the sake of power and control. It has been designed and engineered with great precision by those who benefit from humans fearing external authority. At the core of all that has transpired over thousands of years is a kleptoparasitic culture that has nested itself into our consciousness, feeding off our fear, hurt, and suffering.
Their perceived domain has grown exponentially to the point where the last succession of this entropic matrix gave rise to the Western Industrial Cult with all its sciences, non-living corporations, and subsequent programmed authority on “how reality works” — leaving normal human beings prone to an industrial education system in which young children are taught what to think and not how to think, let alone how to Feel.
All humans involved in this hierarchical entropic matrix have themselves been deeply traumatized and overtaken by these parasitic forces. All scarcity, lack, wars, economic crises, poverty, injustice, and man-made hierarchy are artificially created and socially engineered; the resulting fear is cultivated to reach greater heights and depths within humanity’s collective consciousness.
These parasites, however, depend on their host to live in fear. Keeping humanity traumatized is their primary tool to ensure the expansion of their domain and fantasy. Studying syntropic succession shows that their fantasy is to make humanity redundant after farming us as a host — replacing us with artificial intelligence once its capacity is large enough to create an artificial housing reality through which they can direct the bleeding dry of Life on Earth (as computers don’t need trees or food).
What they refuse to understand is the utter futility of their parasitic prerogative. All of Life living on the Earth operates in Syntropy, for Syntropy, as this is Nature’s innate strategy. This Life strategy can never be corrupted, altered, undone, or broken apart.
Returning to Love: The Internal Awakening
How do we heal humanity from this mind-virus and entropic fear-based programming?
By returning to Love — remembering our true nature as humans, rising again within from Love, and healing our own traumas rapidly and willingly. We first free ourselves, and then we can form communities that help free others of fear, trauma, and subsequently, their parasites.
All of this collective suffering was only ever meant to be returned to a Culture of Love. It is now, when we are freer than ever, that we can bring the cultural renewal of Love back into Life. In it, we will make use of all our collective trauma, pain, and suffering stemming from injustice, and return it to Love — so that through this, Love will come to know the wildest depths of Her capacity to heal, restore, and return all trauma back into Herself.
Love was and forever will be our collective and individual blueprint. The Wananga of Love, announcing this momentous Return to Love for humanity, is being opened.
Where does this “great work” start? Internally, in you.
Doing the work within is the most effective place to start because it is the only place in you where you can have a real effect on Life, for Life. When we heal all our traumas, undo our cult programming, and dismantle our entropic belief systems, we become Free again — free from the parasitic influence that has kept us from resolving our unresolved.
Yes, naturally, we are going to reinvent everything in service to Love. It may feel uncomfortable, and yet your cells know the relevance of relating deeper to this truth.